Magical Relationship Turnaround
Think of any Relationship that is NOT as you want it to…or is “problematic” in any way…
You’ve tried “everything” and “nothing” has worked to change the dynamic between you.
It could be ANYONE—your husband or wife, your boyfriend or girlfriend, a boss, a co-worker, a daughter or son, or Mother or Father, a best friend, sibling, or a client—ANYONE.
Usually, we are bombarded by how we don’t want our relationship to be—We are constantly reacting to the negatives emotionally, the ups & downs, the frustrations & annoyances, the disrespect & lack of interest & attention & how the other person has begun taking us for granted, NOT appreciating our value and what we bring to the table, or just giving all of their best energy, desires, & selves to others.
We begin to be trapped in the “chicken or the egg” syndrome—they say or do THAT and I react like THIS—and the distance just grows between you.
You TRY being better—If I were just improved in some way they’d love me more—being nicer, being better, being better looking, giving more, doing more for them—or, you just pull away inside & give up because all of the anger, resentments, sadness, betrayals big & small & heartaches have accumulated into an unsurmountable concrete & steel WALL. You’ve tried talking, you’ve tried explaining, you’ve tried ASKING the person to BE DIFFERENT. Nothing works.
THIS WORKS:
- First, make a list of 10 things you LOVE, LIKE, or RESPECT about the person. This could take forever to reach 10, so just go as far as you can as quickly as you can on your List.
(Your List can contain skills, talents, personality, values, looks, standards…)
After you’ve completed the list—RE-READ IT—and actually FEEL the appreciation for each thing on your list.
From now on—ONLY think of those things when you think of your person. See them ONLY in their BEST LIGHT—the Best Version of themselves. And, whenever the “old ways and habits” are in your face—SWITCH YOUR THOUGHTS to YOUR LIST.
IF it is a romantic partner—think of, and remember, and FEEL How you FELT when you first met them, how you FELT for them in your initial honeymoon phase as much as humanly possible, sit with that FEELING until you feel it fully. AND, ONLY interact with them FROM THAT ENERGY.
- FOCUS as much as possible ON YOURSELF GOING UP !!
This step is about taking ALL of your energy and putting it towards the top 3 things you’ve always wanted for yourself.
Take your energy OFF of them—chasing them emotionally, negatively, or in your thoughts. As you take all energetic “chasing” away & negative focus away from them—and putting all of your energy on yourself going up, and ONLY thinking of them positively when you do see them or hear from them—you are creating a “rubber band” effect of pulling back positively and then shooting the rubber band.
As you focus with all of your thoughts & will power on attaining the 3 goals you’ve always wanted for yourself but never quite achieved—see yourself easily obtaining those goals and all of the positive results that will benefit your life & your loved ones by having completed these 3 things you DO WANT.
Very small steps toward each goal are actually ATOM BOMBS! The atom bomb is created from the tiniest of particles exploding—an analogy for making changes in your life.
DO ANYTHING DIFFERENTLY. If it’s hard to get out of your bed everyday—just get out of bed and make your bed. THEN CELEBRATE that win! Go to the gym –even if you don’t exercise—just get your clothes and gear together & GO! THERE! 2x -3x per week—and CELEBRATE THAT WIN ! If you have tons of clutter & things around your house—just clear a 1 foot x 1 foot area and stop there. And LOOK at the cleared space and celebrate it ! Then do another 1 foot x 1 foot area!
This step is imperative. It creates & changes many different things on many different levels.
It REBUILDS YOU –your self-worth, self-value, and self-esteem. It instantly triggers your subconscious mind into a better more positive creative state—and signals NEWNESS to your mind, soul, spirit—and ALSO SHOCKS your person with your sudden instant “NEWNESS”—you being “different” awakens their interest and if your do it RIGHT and consistently—You will make them say “WOW!” while creating within them a new curiosity & a new powerful positive energy within them towards YOU.
AT THIS POINT, the next steps depend on if you are Female or Male, as the steps necessary will vary depending on which one you are (or identify with):
HOWEVER, the first step for each is the same: NO MATTER WHAT THE PAST HAS BEEN, if you are wanting to “STAY” in your romantic relationship with your romantic partner/spouse, START BY ONLY BEING HAPPY to hear from them, see them and HAPPY about ANYTHING & EVERYTHING they provide for you! They text, they call, they come home—BE HAPPY ABOUT IT !
STOP criticizing, being distant, being silent, being rude, being short, being sarcastic–in effect, subconsciously you are “punishing” them for anything wrong they have ever done, their lack of affection & appreciation, your own disappointments, and even their very existence. They may or may not be aware of “why”—but either way, in the moments that make up a day—they just feel like you DO NOT LIKE THEM. And EVERYONE enjoys being wanted and liked ! 😊
If you wish to learn the specific steps for improving your relationship, text Jennifer Sheldon, 757-779-2164 for a consultation.
The very specific steps to take if your person is male or female will be provided in the future.
